Replace PGlite with embedded-postgres and add startup banner

Switch from PGlite (WebAssembly) to embedded-postgres for zero-config
local development — provides a real PostgreSQL server with full
compatibility. Add startup banner with config summary on server boot.
Improve server bootstrap with auto port detection, database creation,
and migration on startup. Update DATABASE.md, DEVELOPING.md, and
SPEC-implementation.md to reflect the change. Update CLI database
check and prompts. Simplify OnboardingWizard database options.

Co-Authored-By: Claude Opus 4.6 <noreply@anthropic.com>

packages/shared/src/config-schema.ts

@@ -12,9 +12,10 @@ export const llmConfigSchema = z.object({
 });
 
 export const databaseConfigSchema = z.object({
-  mode: z.enum(["pglite", "postgres"]),
+  mode: z.enum(["embedded-postgres", "postgres"]).default("embedded-postgres"),
   connectionString: z.string().optional(),
-  pgliteDataDir: z.string().default("./data/pglite"),
+  embeddedPostgresDataDir: z.string().default("./data/embedded-postgres"),
+  embeddedPostgresPort: z.number().int().min(1).max(65535).default(54329),
 });
 
 export const loggingConfigSchema = z.object({