feat: integrate Changesets for multi-package npm publishing

Migrate from single-bundle CLI publishing to publishing all @paperclipai/*
packages individually via Changesets. This fixes the "Cannot find package
@paperclipai/server" error when installing from npm.

Changes:
- Add @changesets/cli with fixed versioning (all packages share version)
- Make 7 packages publishable (shared, adapter-utils, db, 3 adapters, server)
- Add build scripts, publishConfig, and files fields to all packages
- Mark @paperclipai/server as external in CLI esbuild config
- Simplify CLI importServerEntry() to use string-literal dynamic import
- Add generate-npm-package-json support for external workspace packages
- Create scripts/release.sh for one-command releases
- Remove old bump-and-publish.sh and version-bump.sh
- All packages start at version 0.2.0

Usage: ./scripts/release.sh patch|minor|major [--dry-run]

Co-Authored-By: Claude Opus 4.6 <noreply@anthropic.com>

server/tsconfig.json

@@ -4,5 +4,6 @@
     "outDir": "dist",
     "rootDir": "src"
   },
-  "include": ["src"]
+  "include": ["src"],
+  "exclude": ["src/__tests__"]
 }